Selecting a cure

once people learned i had cancer, family and friends came forward to offer assistance by pointing cris and i to several doctors, oncologists, and alternative medicine practitioners. i realized i had to think of how i would like to be treated.

although the natural choice would normally be western medicine with its scientific and technological developments over the years, i have been a follower and believer of alternative medicine for a long time. the idea of natural remedies has always appealed to me. maybe it's because of my being a filipino, with all our herbolarios, hilots and faith-healers. i grew up in the province where these were the healers of first choice, because doctors educated in western medicine were not always available or were beyond the financial capability of barrio people.

besides, western medicine despite all its well-funded research and scientific clinical tests, has a 'hit or miss' element in its treatments. it is not uncommon for doctors to prescribe a drug for a malady, and when it doesn't work on a patient, to move on to the next drug, and then, move on again, until the right one is found.

even the more expensive, modern machines are not 100% accurate or effective. doctors admit that radiology and chemotherapy affects not only cancer cells, but good cells as well. they have side effects which are managed with more drugs, which in turn also have other side effects.

the western medications and treatments work for some people, but not for others. on the patients that respond well to the therapy, the healing is sometimes partial or temporary. i believe this is because different people will react to these medications and treatments in different ways. after all, each of us is unique in our physiology and chemical compositions.

defenders of western medicine will say that these “gold standard” therapies are backed with years of extensive research and development, and have undergone strictly controlled tests in order to ensure their safety and effectiveness. they can quote medical statistics to prove each treatment’s effectiveness. yet, there are adverse effects. yet, healing is not assured.

at this point in my journey, i have chosen the alternative medicine route. i can imagine my traditional (read, western medine) doctor-friends moaning and groaning, and saying what a great mistake i am making. i am playing with my health and my life. i am delaying the application of medications and treatments that could save my life.

bear with me while i explain my decision.

why choose alternative medicine, which is fraught with hocus-pocus, quacks, and frauds? because sometimes real healers can be found among them.

but they have no scientific data to back them up; no strict clinical tests done on their treatments. of what use are scientific data or clinical test results to me, if i have no assurance of being cured? uncertainty exists in both western and alternative medicine.

while it is true that alternative medicine have no empirical data to back it up, there are living, breathing people who have been cured with it. like a doctor of mine said, 'how can you argue with success?' well, some successes exist anyway.

but why alternative? because, as i've said, i'm partial to 'natural', as opposed to synthetically produced drugs that are based on natural elements.

i have heard several alternative medicine explanations of cancer. different treatments based on natural healing abound. how do i separate the grain from the chaff? i listen and try to go with what sounds the most logical to me.

how can i trust my own uneducated, unscientific assessment of a similarly wide variety of alternative medicine therapies? because in the end, i am responsible for myself. it is my life (and to be macabre about it, my death) and no one else’s. am i forgetting cris and my children? no, i am not, but i have to live my life, as they do theirs, and i also believe i am making the best choice that will allow me to share a fuller longer life with them. we all make our choices. some will be good, most will not be so good. i have made some unbelievably bad choices in my life! but i have always been prepared to pay the price for them, as i am doing now.

but the thing that leads me most to alternative medicine is my desire to be an active participant in my healing process, rather than a passive patient. with western medicine, i am given medications and treated by a physician, who is expected to heal me. in the alternative medicine approach i choose, i am my own healer, and my physician is my guide.

this may seem like a good cut-out mechanism for my alternative medicine coach. if i am not cured, it's my fault, not his, for not following instructions, for not sticking to my prescribed diet, for not religiously taking my food supplements, for not exercising properly. if the western-trained doctor does not heal me, hey! it's not my fault. he failed in his job.

but i prefer taking the responsibility for my well-being and cure on my shoulders, rather than on letting someone else bear the weight of all that responsibility.

cris is concerned about the tone of finality in my decision. would i change my mind if alternative medicine doesn't work? would i be willing to go the other route? like they said, 'it ain't over til the fat lady sings', and right now, there ain't any fat lady around to sing.

sure, i'm willing to explore, to listen, to weigh and to judge. but i have put down the guidelines i would like to base my decisions on. these are things i believe define the values i live by. and if we don't live by the values we choose in life, what are we but slaves to circumstances?

would i trade my good looks, ie hair, strong-looking physique, for a few more months of life under chemotherapy? would i prefer to be alive but weak and helpless in my bed? would i be able to stand the looks of fear and pity in the eyes of cris, my children and my friends when i am wasted and unable to function properly?

difficult questions to answer unless you're face to face with death. yesterday, i met an old classmate from la salle, chito jaraiz. he has cancer too. and he told me, 'we are the fortunate ones, benj. we know that we will soon be gone and can prepare for it. the others have no prior warning, and that could be more dangerous.' indeed, bro.

i have one last, over-riding reason for staying on my chosen path. on the day after i consulted with the alternative medicine practitioner whom i had already selected to be my guide, i decided to lift up my decision to God. i went to mass and stayed with the Blessed Sacrament for some time. i had made several decisions in the past without consulting the Lord. some of them turned out to be good decisions, some, bad. but even with the good decisions, without the Lord's blessing, the uncertainty would weigh heavily on me. this time, i needed His guidance. i could do without so much uncertainty.

i asked Him my questions; i prayed; and then, as i usually do in front of the Blessed Sacrament, i kept quiet, and listened, and prepared myself to wait. His answer came immediately and with such force, that i could not question His response . His words to me were, “Western or alternative medicine, makes no difference. Either one can make you well. What is important is My presence. I am the Healer.”

and that's life as benjie, with God.